We’ve compiled a few online and local resources as a starting point on your road to recovery as an individual or as a couple. This by no means an exclusive list, there are many other excellent resources out there but hopefully this will put you in the right direction.
* Please note, that although we have found valuable information from the following sources, we do not endorse all information, religious views and opinions of these services or third-party websites.
There’s A Hole In My Sidewalk
“Autobiography in Five Short Chapters”
by Portia Nelson
This poem has become widely known in many addiction recovery circles. It is an incredibly powerful metaphor describing the change process that often occurs with addiction & recovery. I walk down the street.
1. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
2. I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
3. I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in… it’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault… I get out immediately.
4. I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
5. I walk down another street.
Local Resources & Phone Numbers
* Atlas Christian Counseling – 712-722-4900 (FREE)
* Bethesda Christian Counseling – 712-737-2635
* Creative Living Center – 712-476-5245 or 888-587-2537
* Seasons Center – 24 hour crisis line 844-345-4569
* Dial 211 from a cellphone to get in contact with resources in your area:
-Iowa 211 – 1-800-304-0334 or 515-252-7858
-South Dakota 211 – 866-605-4723
* Elim Support Group – see brochure
Understanding Porn & Sexual Addiction
Take a Self Assessment: Sexual Integrity Inventory
https://faithfulandtrue.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/Faithful-True-SEXUAL-INTEGRITY-INVENTORY-5-08-2017.pdf
e-Books: A few different eBooks on Porn’s Effects on the Brain, Body, and Culture by Covenant Eyes (free) https://www.covenanteyes.com/e-books/
Blog: Covenant Eyes has a variety of blog posts that include tips, encouragement, and education https://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/
Book: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Mark Laaser
Dr. Mark Laaser traces the roots of sexual addiction, discusses its patterns and impact, and maps out a biblical approach to self-control and sexual integrity.
https://faithfulandtrue.com/product/healing-wounds-sexual-addiction
Website: Pathformen.com
A community support based website. Many free helpful video courses with registration. A 19.95/mo subscription allows access community forum and Q&A therapy sessions
Resources for Women Who Struggle With Porn
Website: Covenant Eyes https://www.covenanteyes.com/2014/06/30/resources-women-struggle-porn/
Support for Wives
e-Books: Porn and Your Husband A Recovery Guide for Wives (Covenant Eyes – free)
https://www.covenanteyes.com/marriage-advice-my-husband-watches-porn/
Hope After Porn 4 women share their heartache…and how their marriages were saved (Covenant Eyes – free)
https://www.covenanteyes.com/hope-after-porn-how-their-marriages-were-saved/
Book: Shattered Vows by Debra Laaser (Hope & Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed)
This sensitive book provides practical tools to help you make wise and empowering decisions, emotional tools to develop intimacy in your life, and tools to transform your suffering. Debbie Laaser’s personal journey through betrayal, her extensive work with hundreds of hurting women, and her intimate marriage twenty-five years after the disclosure of her husband’s infidelity provide meaningful answers to the questions that arise amid the complex fallout of broken vows. https://faithfulandtrue.com/product/shattered-vows/
Website: Bloomforwomen.com
A community support based website. Many free helpful video courses with registration. A 19.95/mo subscription allows access community forum and Q&A therapy sessions
Apps & Email Challenge for Recovery
FORTIFY (Free or paid version 9.99/mo)
Fortify is an app that was designed to equip individuals struggling with compulsive pornography use – young and old – with tools, education and community to assist them in reaching lasting freedom. It tracks daily victories and setbacks, lifestyle contributors, and overall well-being (depression, anxiety, connectedness, etc). It has a 12 week training program, daily discussion, and SOS (immediate support) and long-term progress. https://www.joinfortify.com/
Covenant Eyes – Overcome Porn: a 40 day challenge (free)
Available as a daily email challenge or an iPhone App https://learn.covenanteyes.com/porn-free-challenge/?_ga=2.179058980.1271996666.1594121751-1606038308.1594121751
Workshops – hosted by Faithful & True Ministry – Located in Eden Prairie, MN
https://faithfulandtrue.com/workshops/
MEN OF VALOR 3-Day Intensive Workshop. The focus of the workshop is not only strategies to stop acting out behaviors, but also, to understand the individual wounds and thought patterns that drive them.
Women’s Journey Workshop
Couples’ Intensive Workshop
Podcasts
Covenant Eyes YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/CovenantEyes
Focus on the Family Podcasts https://www.focusonthefamily.com/topic/marriage/marriage-problems/?wpv-category%5B%5D=marriage-problems&wpv-post_tag%5B%5D=addiction&wpv_view_count=11183
Faithful & True Podcasts https://soundcloud.com/user-739389747